Dear Sixteen Year Old Megan,
Where do I begin? There are so many things that are going to happen to you in the coming years. There will be a fair share of great moments and a fair share of horrible moments. You will survive all of them and you will be a better person because of it.
Before we get to the future, let’s start with where you are:
You’ve just gotten your license and a new sense of freedom…along with your first car. A car that no one has ever heard of….oh Eagle Summit! Although not the dream car you had hoped for, stop being a brat. You have a car. You didn’t have to buy it. Don’t worry though! With your excellent driving skills, that car meets its demise quickly and you end up with a different car.
Enjoy the rest of your high school experience. Take it all in. The rest of your time is going to go so quickly. Before you know it, you will be graduating and moving on to college. Stay involved in clubs, committees, honor society’s and general high school fun. You will make great friends, have invaluable experiences and set yourself up to get into college.
That Outward Bound trip that you are so nervous to go on. Do it. Push yourself. It will change your life. Yes, 5 days in the great outdoors seems like a lot, but I promise, it will be worth it. You will start out very unsure of yourself, your abilities, and the whole trip in general. By the end of the 5 days, you will be setting up a campsite, cooking on your own and navigating the Potomac to get your group back. You will have time throughout the trip to think about what you are experiencing, to journal, to grow. You will come home a changed person. You will have a new sense of confidence and respect. This will be a huge turning point for you as a person, as well as with some of your relationships. You and your Mom’s relationship will get so much better after this trip. She becomes your best friend.
Your senior year, you will be dating a guy – a guy that you think is great, but is wrapped up in the wrong crowd and in things that you don’t believe in. You stand your ground. You break up with him, which means you end up not having a date for your Senior Year Homecoming. Although it seems like the end of the world, it’s really not. You go with friends and end up having an even better time. This is a pivotal moment, as well. Your best friend tells you that she knows a guy who would be perfect for you! She’s going to set you up. That guy is Brian, your future husband. Everything happens for a reason!
Also, that body that you are working so hard to change…stop! It’s perfect! Twelve years from now, you will be working hard to get back to your 16-year-old weight! Stop being so hard on yourself and obsessed with image. You will never have 6-pack abs – it’s not in your genetic make-up. Be happy with who you are. You are perfect.
In the future, you will lose loved ones and you will lose friends. Know that everything happens for a reason and you are exactly where you should be and doing exactly everything the way you should. Everything is a learning experience. You will make mistakes, but you will learn from them and grow.
You will break-up with Brian throughout your time in college. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. You never totally lose touch and always remain friends. Around your Junior year of college, you return home to visit family and decide to have dinner with Brian. That date at La Tolteca…a turning point in your relationship. You start dating again and move in together when you graduate. You live in that house for a few years, and then buy a new house together. This is the house that you move in to 2 weeks before you get married. The craziness! This is the house that you bring your daughter home. This is the house that you become a family in. It will hold great memories.
I’m not sure where life will take you in the future, but know that it’s going to be an amazing ride! Continue to hold true to yourself. Continue to follow your dreams. One day, twelve years from now, you will look around and love the life that you have.
You will learn to live by the motto…everything is okay in the end…if it’s not okay, it’s not the end. It’s true every time. Remember that.
…the one 12 years later